What Women Really Desire From A Man!

The old testament still stands true today, “happy wife, happy life.” Think about that in terms of your relationships, when was the last time your women was upset and you were happy guys? It never happens, when that special women in your life is happy so are you.

With that in mind, here are four straightforward tips from Shelly Bullard, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, love coach, and spiritual teacher.  Integrate these into your life, and you’ll inspire an incredible woman to glow by your side.

1. She wants a man to take the initiative.

To most women, the ideal date goes like this: A man figures out all the details and he makes it happen.

Seriously. Just get it done.

You may think that a woman always wants to be in control of what to do and where to go, but believe it or not, most women love it when her man decides.

The reason for this is we already have our plates full. Figuring out the details of a date is just another thing to add to our to-do lists. And we hate our to-do lists!

One of the most enjoyable things about a date is that a woman gets to feel taken care of by you. That’s the best part. Your initiative is a serious turn-on (I can’t emphasize this enough). Take care of all the details, and your woman will feel so taken care of by you.

2. She wants a man to be present with her.

Men, your presence goes a long way with a woman. What I mean by presence is your awareness, your connection to right now, and your uncompromised attention on her.

Now, I’m not saying that you need to pay attention to your woman all the time. That’s not possible, nor is it enjoyable for anyone involved.

What I am saying, however, is that a woman desires a certain amount of quality time with you on a regular basis. This is nonnegotiable if you want to keep your relationship fresh, alive, and free.

Women start pulling for more attention when they feel deprived of it. And, of course, this clingy behavior makes you back away. I get it — it doesn’t feel good. The antidote for this is spending quality time with a woman when you can.

We spend a lot of time with our partners, but much of it isn’t quality time. Sitting on the couch watching TV is not quality time. Turning off your phone, looking her in the eyes, asking her questions and genuinely listening to her answers is.

Make an effort to be present with your woman when you are able to do so. I promise you, her connection to you will flourish as a result.

3. She wants a man to praise her beauty.

Yes, women like to be told that they are beautiful. What’s wrong with that?!

Many of us can be judgmental about this fact, but the reason for this is deeper than one might expect. We aren’t talking about simple vanity here; praising a woman’s beauty is important because she wants to know that a man sees her.

He sees her light. He sees her radiance. He sees her uniqueness. He sees her heart.

Again, I want to be really clear: it is not your job to convince a woman that she’s beautiful. In fact, you can’t. A woman must have enough self-esteem to accept your compliments. If she doesn’t think she’s pretty, there’s no way she’ll believe that you do, either.

However, many women will be able to take in a man’s praise, and if she can, she’ll want to hear it often.

This is just part of being a woman — we should accept it as normal and encourage the beauty in us all! By doing so, the women of the world will brighten (literally, right before your eyes), and this means much more light for the world.

4. She wants a man to act like The Man.

When I say act like The Man, I’m not talking about an inflated ego, arrogance, or a machismo attitude. These qualities do not inspire anything except distance from a woman.

What I am talking about is this: Act with integrity in all that you do.

Integrity is defined as the state of being whole and solid, as well as the quality of being honest and moral. So what it means to act with integrity is pretty simple: Be a good man.

Know your impact on others and take that seriously! Be a man who cares about using his clarity and strength to make this world a better place.

Without integrity, it is nearly impossible for a woman to trust a man. And without her trust, your relationship is going to feel like hell. You know what I’m talking about; it is not fun to be on the other end of a distrustful woman. The way to avoid this is simple … be trustworthy.

Men, keep in mind that you have a lot to offer women and the world. So much good will come from you being the best man that you can be; women will benefit, and everyone else you come in contact with will, too.

Ladies, please leave a comment below praising the great qualities of great men you know! I look forward to hearing from you.

 

Post By: Shelly Bullard via MindBodyGreen

Shelly Bullard, MFT is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, love coach and spiritual teacher. Through her articles, courses and coaching, Shelly has guided hundreds of thousands of people to embrace their confidence, beauty, grace, strength and love from within.
She believes that when you learn how to truly love yourself, your relationships naturally become fulfilling from the inside-out, and you become the person you’re meant to be. She’s an mindbodygreen instructor and teaches a high-impact relationships course, “How To Become The Most Attractive Version Of Yourself & Be Magnetic In Your Relationships.”

Shelly was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by MindBodyGreen, and her work has been featured in Cosmopolitan, Yoga Life Magazine, The Omega Institute, The Good Men Project, Elephant Journal, and of course, MBG.

 

Give Your Guy Back His Nuts!

 

Ladies, I do believe Patti Stanger delivers the best advice when she tells women to lead from your vagina.  As women have been taught we can do anything-which yes we can….however, being overly independent, not allowing your guy to be the “man” can be detrimental in your relationships.  Ladies put down your “package” and pick your “vagina.”  Give your guy back his nuts and “package”  😉

 

The Secret Key to Having a Successful Relationship!

 

 Calling all entrepreneurs. Now you have the secret key to a successful relationship….

“Relationships are businesses too. If you want to win you must have a plan, a strong leader, and work as a team! And if you’re both on the same page there will be no stopping you!” ~Michael Baisden

 Michael Baisden

When it comes to entertaining, enlightening and educating, no one in talk radio compares to Michael Baisden. His high energy and love for interacting with his listeners is just one reason for the popularity and success of The Michael Baisden Show. Michael ignites heated discussions with explosive episodic themes like: Living Your Dream, Your Body Is Your Temple, Do Women Know What They Want, and Pimps In The Pulpit.

“Match” Dating Group Acquires POF (Plenty of Fish)

Sam Yagan, CEO of The Match Group, David Evans, Online Dating Insider, and Markus Frind, founder of POF

Post by David Evans

The Match Group, the global operator of digital dating products such as Match, Tinder, OkCupid and Meetic, and a subsidiary of IAC, announced today that it has entered into a definitive agreement to purchase PlentyOfFish for US$575 million in cash.

David wrote  Be Plenty Scared of Plenty Of Fish in 2oo5 and again in an Inc. Magazine article, And the Money Comes Rolling In.

POF founder Markus Frind stands to make around $525 million on the deal. This is an extraordinary move for Match. I think from here on out we’ll get a Tinder every few years and nobody will be able to touch Match, at least in English speaking countries, for the next decade.

Of course hundreds of new mobile dating apps will continue to launch every year in the hopes of being the Next Big Thing. But of the 50 or so apps that made it on to my home screen last year, I can’t remember 95% of them. That’s a huge problem for the industry, a lack of discernibly different dating app experiences.

Seems like the Match Group is all set for their split from IAC. Match buys Hinge next, because Hinge investors are in for $20M and want a return on their investment soon, not a dragged-out deal like Zoosk. I wonder how long Match will wait to do the Hinge transaction?

 

David Evans has been blogging about the business of online dating since 2002. He consults and advises leading industry brands and enjoys working with dating site startups.

Top 5 Questions to Ask Before You Say “Yes” to That Date!

Dating can be emotionally draining and disappointing. How would you like to find a great way to quickly tell whether or not someone is worth dating and having a love relationship with?

Designed by your astrological sign, here are the top 5 questions by internationally known astrologer Larry Schwimmer you should ask before you agree to that next date!

How To Use These Questions

Find your sign among the 12 shown. Ask your five questions in your own style and words. They don’t have to be asked, literally, as written or all during your first meeting. Feel free to ask them as you get to know the person.

These questions have been designed to be “open-ended” to promote discussion and to insure that you get a more truthful response. What you learn in your conversation will help you decide whether this is someone you would enjoy dating and having a relationship. If you’re a woman, here are the questions you should ask before you say, “yes” to a date.

Aries Woman

1. How do you feel about going out with a high-energy woman who is a doer as opposed to someone more laid back?

2. What do you think about a woman who tends to be independent and forceful, and expects to be treated as a 100% equal.

3. What’s your reaction to being with a woman who can be jealous, even possessive and who will demand total fidelity?

4. What would women from past relationships say about how comfortable you were giving and receiving a lot of affection?

5. What do you think about a woman who let’s you know she won’t tolerate being ignored or neglected?

Taurus Woman

1. When it comes to being a dependable person, who can be counted on to keep your commitments, what would past relationships say about you?

2. What’s your attitude toward enjoying the finer pleasures of life like good food, great music, dressing well, sensuous sex?

3. What would women from past relationships say about you being a man who enjoyed courting a woman and pursuing her until you’ve won her heart?

4. How do you feel about a passionate partner, who enjoys great sex and having it often?

5. What are your thoughts between the choices of having a monogamous relationship or one where you could enjoy some variety?

Gemini Woman

1. Which do you enjoy more: intellectual stimulation and interesting conversation or relaxing in front of the TV watching a football game?

2. How would you feel if you were in a relationship with a woman who was restless, changeable and liked to do seven things at once? Would it drive you crazy?

3. What would women from past relationships say about you if they were asked: Is he a man who’s sexually curious and willing to experiment?

4. How do you feel about having a definite routine versus having a variety of new activities that might be different everyday?

5. Have you recently read any interesting books or taken any classes that changed the way you think?

Cancer Woman

1. Do you consider yourself to be more of an intellectual person or more of a feeling person? And why?

2. How do you feel about being in a relationship with a woman who can be very sensitive, moody and whose feelings can be hurt easily?

3. Are you someone who’s sentimental and enjoys remembering the great times from the past or do you mainly focus on the future? And why?

4. Have you ever been devastated by a love relationship where you felt deeply hurt by the other person? If so, please tell me about it.

5. I’m cautious about giving my heart away; so how would you make a woman like me feel secure?

Leo Woman

1. How would you spoil the woman you love and make her feel like a princess?

2. How do you feel about being with a strong, flamboyant woman who can dazzle, be dramatic and be the center of a room? Would it be intimidating to you?

3. When you’re in love are you more the cautious type or someone dives into it with great passionate and intensity?

4. What are some of the ways that you show a woman your romantic side?

5. What are the ways that you like to have fun and socialize?

Virgo Woman

1. Do you consider yourself a perfectionist or someone who’s very accepting of the way things are?

2. Do you enjoy being busy and having lots of activity going on or would you prefer living life at a more relaxed pace?

3. How would react to a woman who’s practical, organized and likes to work?

4. Are you someone who enjoys public affection or would you rather keep it behind closed doors?

5. When it comes to romance, I move slowly and am a bit cautious; how do you feel about needing to be patient and go more slowly and win my trust?

Libra Woman

1. What kind of cultural events like music, art, theatre do you enjoy?

2. How do you enjoy discussing the topic of human psychology and the fascinating ways people behave?

3. Are you an extrovert who enjoys fun conversation, social events and parties or would you prefer mostly a one-on-one get together?

4. When you’re attracted to a woman, what are the ways that you show her a good time and make her feel special?

5. When it comes to love, I prefer romance before sex; what are the ways you go about winning a woman’s heart?

Scorpio Woman

1. How comfortable would be with a woman who can be both secretive and cautious about revealing herself?

2. Do your relationships tend to be more casual and relaxed or more passionate and intense? And, tell me why?

3. Do you prefer to be monogamous in a relationship or would you rather be able to enjoy some variety in your love life? And tell me why one is more appealing?

4. Have you ever been devastated by a love relationship where you felt betrayed to the point where you wanted vengeance for the pain you suffered? If so, tell me about it.

5. How would you feel about being in a relationship with a woman who is very emotional, affectionate who can be demanding?

Sagittarius Woman

1. What would be your attitude toward a woman who is an independent, free-spirited woman who doesn’t allow a relationship to confine her?

2. Is having a great sense of humor and being intellectually stimulated important to you? If so, why?

3. I enjoy activities such as philosophical discussions, travel, sports and just being outdoors. Are any of these activities you enjoy, too?

4. Do you feel that honesty is over-rated or is telling the truth important even if it might hurt the other person’s feelings? What do you think?

5. For some, love is a grand adventure; what does being in love mean to you?

Capricorn Woman

1. Would it be a turn on or a turn off if you knew I was ambitious and put a lot of value on success, money and status? What are your thoughts?

2. How important is it to you to build your career, and have a prosperous life where you have the ability to enjoy the finer things?

3. How would you feel about being in a relationship with a self-sufficient woman who doesn’t live her life through you, but instead has her own independent goals?

4. How would you react if I planned our date, chose the restaurant, picked the entertainment and arranged for the tickets? Would that be a bit threatening?

5. How do you feel about pursuing a woman and establishing a relationship with her before you become lovers?

Aquarius Woman

1. How do you feel about first developing a friendship with a woman before you become lovers?

2. Do you enjoy socializing with others and having interesting conversations about many topics or would you prefer to spend your time mostly being together one-on-one?

3. How comfortable would you be with a woman who values her independence and freedom and dislikes men who are possessive?

4. How would you feel about being with a woman who hates boredom and enjoys verbal debate, especially with people who have different ideas than mine—including you?

5. What attitude would you have toward dating a woman who is innovative and creative both out in the world and in the bedroom? Would that be a bit threatening?

Pisces Woman

1. Pisces is known as the sign of “self-undoing;” What have you discovered that has been your “self-undoing” in life?

2. Tell me one artistic thing about yourself and one sensual thing about you?

3. What’s the biggest sacrifice you’ve ever made for someone?

4. How would you react to a woman who was so sensitive and psychic that she could uncover your secrets? Tell me one secret now.

5. Are you romantically attracted to a woman who is spiritual, mystic and interested in the occult or would you prefer a more grounded, traditional woman? Why?

Selfie Obsession Linked to Narcissism and Mental Illnesses

The popular selfie phenomenon which has taken over social media outlets has been linked to serious health conditions!

According to psychiatrist Dr David Veal: “Two out of three of all the patients who come to see me with Body Dysmorphic Disorder since the rise of camera phones have a compulsion to repeatedly take and post selfies on social media sites.”

The word “selfie” was elected “Word of the Year 2013″ by the Oxford English Dictionary. It is defined as “a photograph that one has taken of oneself, typically with a smartphone or webcam and uploaded to a social media website”.

“Cognitive behavioral therapy is used to help a patient to recognize the reasons for his or her compulsive behavior and then to learn how to moderate it,” he told the Sunday Mirror.

A British male teenager tried to commit suicide after he failed to take the perfect selfie. Danny Bowman became so obsessed with capturing the perfect shot that he spent 10 hours a day taking up to 200 selfies. The 19-year-old lost nearly 30 pounds, dropped out of school and did not leave the house for six months in his quest to get the right picture. He would take 10 pictures immediately after waking up. Frustrated at his attempts to take the one image he wanted, Bowman eventually tried to take his own life by overdosing, but was saved by his mom.

Danny told The Mirror, “I was constantly in search of taking the perfect selfie and when I realized I couldn’t, I wanted to die. I lost my friends, my education, my health and almost my life.”

The teenager is believed to be the UK’s first selfie addict and has had therapy to treat his technology addiction as well as OCD and Body Dysmorphic Disorder.

Part of Danny’s treatment at the Maudsley Hospital in London included taking away his iPhone for intervals of 10 minutes, which increased to 30 minutes and then an hour.  “It was excruciating to begin with but I knew I had to do it if I wanted to go on living,” Danny told the Sunday Mirror.

Public health officials in the UK announced that addiction to social media such as Facebook and Twitter is an illness and more than 100 patients sought treatment every year.

“Selfies frequently trigger perceptions of self-indulgence or attention-seeking social dependence that raises the damned-if-you-do and damned-if-you-don’t spectre of either narcissism or very low self-esteem,” said Pamela Rutledge in Psychology Today.

The big problem with the rise of digital narcissism is that it puts enormous pressure on people to achieve unfeasible goals, without making them hungrier. Wanting to be Beyoncé, Jay Z or a model is hard enough already, but when you are not prepared to work hard to achieve it, you are better off just lowering your aspirations. Few things are more self-destructive than a combination of high entitlement and a lazy work ethic.

Ultimately, online manifestations of narcissism may be little more than a self-presentational strategy to compensate for a very low and fragile self-esteem. Yet when these efforts are reinforced and rewarded by others, they perpetuate the distortion of reality and consolidate narcissistic delusions.

The addiction to selfies has also alarmed health professionals in Thailand. “To pay close attention to published photos, controlling who sees or who likes or comments them, hoping to reach the greatest number of likes is a symptom that ‘selfies’ are causing problems,” said Panpimol Wipulakorn, of the Thai Mental Health Department.

Dr. Wipulakorn believed that behaviors could generate brain problems in the future, especially those related to lack of confidence.

 

Thank You for Being Mr. Wrong….

Even though at the time it is never easy, I am simply so grateful that you never loved me enough. We never love the same way twice, and while I know in your own way you did love me, it wasn’t the kind that could keep me warm on a blustery winter’s eve. Thank you for showing me that I don’t want someone to be only half in love with me, or to merely sometimes appreciate me—but to leave them breathless.

Thank you for helping make me into the stronger and even more confident woman that I am today.

Thank you for teaching me that the love I seek is the one that is extraordinary.

Thank you for never appreciating me for my individuality and spirit, because it taught me how important it is to stay true to myself.

Thank you for attempting to dim my light so I learned that I needed to burn as bright as I could.

Thank you for being scared of my intelligence and the depths of my mind, because it taught me there is a difference in loving how I look, or how I make you feel versus loving who I really am.

Thank you for not being the man that I needed, so that instead I was able to see the woman I already was.

Thank you for never having the courage to stake a claim on my heart, because it left the space and opportunity for someone who will be brave enough to take a chance on the wonderful desire of the unknown—someone who will cultivate every trait you tried to suppress.

Thank you for being all wrong, because it showed me what right will look like—and for that I will always be eternally grateful.

~ Anonymous Strong Woman

#LOVEWins!

This truly is a fabulous Friday!

Historic Breaking News: U.S. Supreme Court rules in favor of Marriage Equality in all 50 states!#LoveWins

Dating 101-From a Woman’s Point of View

 Our “Dating 101 From a Women’s Point of View” has been a HUGE success!  I have been over the moon with excitement with all questions and stories you’ve sent in.  So, here we go, answers to your top questions, and a few stories mixed in!

How do I know if a guy is interested?  Guys, love the chase….It’s-graved in them from the caveman century.  If a guy wants something, someone, anything….he’ll go after it until he gets it.  A guy that is interested will call, will make plans, will show up on time, will listen, will introduce you to his friends and family.  A guy that is interested will make time for you, spend time with you, and do the silly things he knows you like to do.  A guy that is interested will text, email, and social media all over your a** so you know, he is interested in you!

So, if you went out on a date, and a few days have gone by, and you haven’t heard from him, he’s not interested.  The guy you met out the other night, he hasn’t called or texted….he’s not interested. Sweetie, keep moving, there’s a better guy for you out there for you.

How long is too long to wait?  This by far, is one of my favorite questions that many of you sent in.  Here’s a great a great story I was told once that has forever stuck in my head in regards to…how long should you wait, for the guy that, needs more time, isn’t ready yet, really likes you but the timing is off, wants to be with you but…… “A woman is in a restaurant, just finished her meal, and has decided to treat herself to an Irish coffee for desert. She is super excited she loves them! The waiter comes over, she orders an Irish coffee with whiskey…The waiter returns a few minutes later with a mug full of hot coffee topped with fluffy whip-cream, she is so excited, she takes the first sip and realizes…hmmm there is somethings missing…the whiskey.  She summons the waiter, asks for the whiskey, he leaves, and returns moments later with her drink. She again takes a sip, so excited as the flavors are perfect with the whiskey included this time.” Moral to the story, she knew what she wanted, she asked for it, she got it.  Know what it is you want, align yourself with someone who wants the same things.  Life isn’t about waiting, it’s about living.

 Guys are pretty simple, listen to what your guy says!  

“I’m just looking to date” = He’s looking to hook-up are you down with that?

“I’m not ready to get married” = He’s not ready to get married.

It’s 11p.m., he sends a text, “Hey what’s up?” = Hey, wanna hook-up tonight?

“I just got out of a relationship” = I’m a hot mess, looking for hot sex, are you in?

“I want to f*** you now, come over” = I think you’re easy, and I want to f*** now.

“You’re sexy” = I want to f*** you

“You’re hot -= I want to f*** you

“You’re beautiful” = I think you’re beautiful, there’s real potential here.

 Where are the best places to meet someone? This can very, keep in mind the location you are looking at what you attracting…Here are a few of my favorite places: the gym, the grocery store, mutual friends-he may not come with a guarantee but at least he comes with a referral, group events/outings-hiking, tennis, networking events, just get yourself out there-mix & mingle!

How can I get my guy to commit?  There is no sugar coating, this one sweetie.  Your guy has to be willing, able, and ready to commit.  If  not, well, he’s not.  Again, listen to what he says and pay attention to his actions.

Great story alert-Don’t date the hater!  This was right around the time of the whole “deflate-gate” with Tom Brady, the Patriots quarter back, for those of you who don’t follow sports.  This guy who will remain nameless sent this message to me, “Hi Jennifer–what the heck is going on? Can’t believe I still haven’t paid up on the Super Bowl bet. Media is going to town on your boy the cheater!! Brady such a fantastic QB maybe one of the best QB’s ever, but such a Dickhead! Pick a day and let’s get that drink. Have a great extended weekend!”  Moral my girlfriends, if a guy is going to hate on your team, your friends, your family, your job, your interests ect…..Don’t date him!

Thanks again everyone for sending in your questions, thoughts and stories…Keep them coming- email: Info@JenniferPilates.com until next time…. Cheers to dating, love & finding the one! xoxo Jennifer

In The Name of Love-Put Down The Phone!

“I think people spend too much time staring into screens & not enough time drinking wine, tongue kissing, and dancing under the moon.”

Comment if you agree! ❤️💋 Jennifer 😍