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Are You In A Healthy Relationship?
“A healthy relationship is one where two independent people just make a deal that they will help make the other person the best version of themselves.”
Why Women Love The “DadBod”
The dadbod (AKA the body type of a man who has a mild beer belly and a so-so relationship with the gym) has always been attractive to woman who want to be with a real guy, not a six-pack pin-up ad.
1. Wonen don’t feel the need to compete with him
Dating a guy with a dadbod takes the pressure off having to maintain your own. You don’t have this complex like, “Oh no, I ate four cookies while he went to play pickup basketball. I should really move my ass if I want to keep up.” You’re on the same team, and you’re working with each other, not against.
2. It makes women feel better about themselves
You don’t have to feel self-conscious that there’s a clear “hot one” of the couple, and it’s not you. If you’re having an “eat day” in which you consume everything in sight, you won’t have to guilt trip yourself afterwards by comparing your diet to your guys. You can live your life the way you want without the fear that your partner is doing it better.
3. It’s way more fun to cuddle with
Who wants to snuggle up against a someone with a smaller waste then you? Women like an actual dadbod, there’s more to love.
4. He’ll never body shame you
A dadbod takes body insecurities out of a relationship and evens the playing field. He’ll never complain that your body has “gone soft” or suggest having protein shake when you really want a pizza. He won’t make harsh remarks about your shape because he’s got his own.
5. He knows how to have fun
He lets both his pants and his personality loose. A man with a dadbod doesn’t get caught up in counting calories or restrict himself from indulging in life. He knows how to eat, drink and live.
6. You both aren’t superficial
He isn’t obsessed with his own appearance or yours or even other people’s. He focuses on what matters. You can change your weight, but you can’t change your personality.
7. You know what he’ll look like in 20 years
That’s the wonderful thing about a dadbod — it’s the kind of body he’ll still have when he’s a dad. No surprises. You know exactly what you are getting and ending up with. And even better, you already know you love it. When he’s older, he still won’t look a day over how he looks now.
8. You can talk about something other than diet and fitness
You and a dadbod have much more in common than just your gym and nutrition routines. You can have fun together without worrying about what you’re eating or drinking.
9. He fills out a suit nicely
A man in a suit is hot. A sturdy man in a suit is sizzling hot! Blazers and jackets were cut boxy for a reason. Men fill them out!
10. You don’t judge each other
He respects you as is and vice versa. If someone tries to tear you down, he’ll throw a paunch. After all you’re his girl!
The Weekly Astrology Forecast Is Out!
The fabulous Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are identical twin sisters and professional astrologers bringing us this weeks astrology forecast.
Make it a double! This Monday, May 11 passionate Mars zips into Gemini for six weeks, setting the stage for prosperous partnerships. Gemini is the sign of the twins after all. The search for our kindred spirits could be an exhilarating one between now and June 24. But what looks like The One, walks like The One and even talks the talk of The One may not actually live up to its promise. Mars can make us quite impatient. When the urge to merge strikes, test the waters with a short-term collab first to see where the rubber meets the road. Variety is the spice of life when Mars is in Gemini, so there’s actually no rush to commit at all. Why not taste the sampler platter before deciding on a favorite dish? Gemini is the communication sign and debates could be quite lively now. We’ll have to be careful not to make any promises that we can’t keep though—even if it IS Mars in Gemini’s right to change his mind. Like, hourly!
On Friday, cautious, conservative Saturn will sit directly opposite Mars, bringing some checks and balances. As much as we’re all enjoying the moment, if we’re wasting resources or burning bridges, there could be trouble in paradise. Saturn is in high-vibing Sagittarius, the sign of truth. What sparkled like a diamond earlier in the week might just be genuine cubic zirconium after all. Call forth your inner Jacob The Jeweler and put new ideas through a genuine appraisal process.
The weekend starts off on a dreamy note as romantic Venus writes a Cinderella story with fantasy-fueled Neptune. Our hearts will be open, our compassion strong. But will it really be a happily-ever-after? Both of these planets love to wear the rose-colored lunettes, so the verdict will probably be out until next week (or longer). It’s easy to absorb other people’s emotions when Venus and Neptune are trined: Shield your field…or plan to douse yourself in sage smoke and a sea salt soak if you get tangled up in other people’s cords. On Sunday, the new moon in Taurus helps us get our feet back on solid ground. Deal with the everyday details of life: budgeting, cleaning up your space, getting your schedule in order. Taurus rules our financial foundations and new moons open up a six-month cycle of manifestation. Map out some cash-positive goals that you’d like to pursue before 2015 is through. Then, get into action!
5 Romantic Birthday Ideas For Your Sweetheart
1. Be Extravagant: This doesn’t necessarily mean that you need to spend a lot of money-after all, some of the best romantic birthday ideas are also the cheapest. What it does mean is that making an extravagant, unexpected gesture always goes over well. Did your sweetie once mention something he or she used to love to do? Or something he or she wishes you would do? In the months leading up to the big birthday, listen to what your sweetie talks about and try to recreate a special thing or a special moment with them. It’s these sorts of extravagant gestures that romance is made of.
2. Vacation-Relaxation Time: If you had the money sitting around in your bank account, you would probably love to sweep your sweetie off to romantic Paris or warm Aruba. But if you can’t, even spending one night away from home-even in the same city for a staycation, is a great romantic birthday idea. Stay in a bed and breakfast just outside the city, or even just down the street. Want to throw your sweetie off your trail? Blindfold them and drive them around for awhile before you get there so they don’t realize how close you are to home. Surprises are so much fun!
3. Chef It Up: A great romantic birthday idea, cook a special meal for your sweetie. Especially if you don’t do it often, preparing an entire meal is a great way to show how much you care and love. After all, the more effort you put in, the more romance you’ll create. Ohh-lala! 😉
4. Make A Sacrifice: The best romantic birthday ideas all revolve around doing something to emphasize what your sweetie’s happiness means to you. The best way to do just that is to make a sacrifice. Is there’s something your partner loves that you just hate to do? Or a chore that he or she would love done, but you’ve never wanted to do it? Now’s the time. Spend the afternoon playing video games together if that’s what he loves. Or go to watch Monster Truck races. Or scrub the bathroom ’til it sparkles. When your partner sees that you gave up something you love or did something you dislike in order to make them happy, they’ll truly feel romanced.
5. Extend The Birthday: My personal favorite, as I like to celebrate my birthday for the whole month!! Want to make your sweetie really feel special? Make it a whole weekend, or even a whole week or month. Spend each day of his or her extended romantic birthday doing something special, with a whole schedule set up-make it all a surprise! Make each day a fun surprise with their favorite activities, foods, and gifts that your sweetie will love.
Who’s Ready For A Cozy Love Filled Week?
This week is not for the faint of heart. The fabulous Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are identical twin sisters and professional astrologers bring us this weeks astrology forecast.
Too much, too soon? Overconfidence reigns near Monday, May 4 as the Taurus Sun gets in a tangled angle (a 90-degree “square”) with risk-taking Jupiter in Leo. While this astrological aspect can make us feverish with excitement and rarin’ to go, it’s easy to overshoot the mark. As the saying goes, “fools rush in.” Don’t rely on desire and instinct alone. Find the facts, ask the tough questions, do a thorough inspection. Get real about your own limitations, too. This is not the week to fake it ‘til you make it. Beyond the personal stress caused by getting in over our heads, this could cause major breakdowns that affect an entire team. Play it safe this week—and don’t fall prey to flattery or the pressure to advance at a supersonic pace.
Fortunately, Wednesday arrives with a grounding earth trine. The Taurus Sun will form a harmonious (120-degree) angle to soulful, transformational Pluto helping us tune in to our higher truths. Pluto is in Capricorn—the sign of wisdom, long-term planning and success that’s earned with time and merit. What’s standing between our dreams and ourselves? The practical steps could unfold like instructions on a GPS midweek. We’ll also have the patience to create a solid foundation before raising the roof with any over-the-top schemes. Not sure what’s next? Be an observer. Watch the people whom you admire in action. While you may have a different skill set, what qualities do they possess that you’d like to have more of yourself: charisma, serenity, playfulness? Take note, because no matter what you’re doing, the way you move through each activity is really what matters when it comes to feeling fulfilled.
On Thursday, love planet Venus switches signs, moving from cheeky, unpredictable Gemini to cozy, family-oriented Cancer until June 5. We’ve had a month of hardcore flirting, Tinder swiping and affections that ran from hot to cold on the hour. Now, our traditional sides take the helm—and with Venus in sentimental Cancer we’ll crave heart-centered connections that bring a sense of comfort and familiarity. Let your mom play matchmaker or find someone whose family history is similar to your own. Who says nice guys have to finish last? The boy—or girl—next-door types will be in-demand for the coming four weeks. We might just reconnect to our childhood sweethearts or seek someone who shares those dreamy traits. Since Cancer rules the domestic realm, this is an ideal time for nesting. Get the cohabitation station feathered to cuddle-worthy code. Spending time at home is sexy: whether lounging, gardening, slow-cooking gourmet meals, or getting creative on a shared reno project. Whether single or spoken for, the interior bug will bite. If you’re looking to attract love into your life, try a little feng shui. Locate your love corner with a bagua map and fill it with romantic symbols. Make sure your bed is accessible from both sides and place pairs of objects around your home as a symbol of partnership.
Weekly Astrology Forecast: Are You Feeling The Urge To Merge?
This week is not for the faint of heart. The fabulous Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are identical twin sisters and professional astrologers bring us this weeks astrology forecast.
Wax on, wax off. Now do it again. From Monday through Thursday, the energizing Sun joins driven Mars and curious Mercury in Taurus—the sign of solid foundations. Moving at a measured pace doesn’t mean we’ll reach the finish line any later. Quite the contrary! Conserving resources and operating from a plan will ensure that we don’t burn out halfway through the game. This week, making mindfulness an M.O. can lead to smarter, sounder choices. Whatever you’re building—be it a relationship or your personal empire—do so with integrity.
On Thursday, quirky Mercury leaves the Taurus trifecta and moves on to Gemini until July 8. It’s rare for the messenger planet to stay in one sign for so long—this extended visit is due to a retrograde from May 18 to June 11. Mercury is the natural ruler of Gemini bringing a double shot of curious, communicative vibes. Like a swarm of social butterflies, we’ll be called out of our cocoons to find our kindred spirits and playmates. Gemini is the zodiac’s twin, making this a fabulous time to pair up on projects, work the buddy system, or find a spring-summer road dog for festivals, beach trips, and dancing under the stars. Mercury in Gemini fills us with wonder about the world. Go forth and mingle with a new crew, dabble in cultural activities, and explore new hometown haunts since Mercury in Gemini heats up action on the local scene. The crafters and makers on planet Earth will be blessed by this tactile Mercury phase. Get hands on! Writers, teachers and media makers too—sharing information and ideas is what Mercury in Gemini loves. Unfortunately, this quicksilver energy won’t give us the longest attention spans. Our interests could change daily…hourly even…so committing to one thing might leave us claustrophobic and gasping for air.
Sunday’s full moon in Scorpio charges the air with mystery and seduction. A spring fever outbreak could become pandemic over the weekend. Meow! Intense attraction will be all consuming—but these very situations could take a dramatic turn. This full moon forms a tense square (90 degree angle) to attention-hungry Jupiter in Leo. What starts out as a dynamic spark could turn into a heated lovers’ quarrel, with all the Leo scene-making and Scorpio jealousy thrown in for good measure. (Watch for flying objects!) Reacting to our quick-fire emotions would be a bad idea this weekend—especially the ones on the list of Seven Deadly Sins. (Uh….lust?) But this lunar energy can push promising partnerships past their tipping point, too. The urge to merge will be stronger for many with playing-for-keeps Scorpio in the mix. Exciting partnerships could become “officially official” before the week is through.
The Weekend Love Forecast Is Here: Time To Snuggle Up!
Is this the weekend where LOVE rules your heart? A new LOVE, or maybe an old LOVE returns? World Famous Astrologer, Maria DeSimone brings us this weekends Love Forecast.
The weekend starts off with the Moon in sensitive Cancer on Friday night. Use this time to snuggle with your sweetheart and to enjoy all of the comforts of home
together. In fact, it’s probably going to be the ONLY time you’re home for the rest of the weekend.
On Saturday the Moon enters vibrant Leo and you’ll be ready to party! Leo is romantic and pleasure-seeking, but also knows how to make others feel special. You and your honey can anticipate the rest of the weekend to be filled with entertainment and unexpected delights. Adding to the Leo Moon on Sunday will be a gorgeous connection between love planet Venus and surprise-a-minute Uranus. If single, you might suddenly run into someone who instantly captures your heart.
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10-Ways To Spot A Real Man!
1. Speak Their Feelings: There seems to be some wild misconception that men shouldn’t talk about their feelings, but the real men I know do. Real men have the balls to sit down with an open heart and speak from a place that isn’t guarded or shut down. They don’t hear the words “we need to talk” and run away with their vulnerability tail in between their legs. They sit down and man up!
2. Undress Their Woman: Real men know the jackpot in love is undressing a woman’s soul, layer-by-layer, piece-by-piece. Real euphoria goes deeper than sex. Real men, get know their woman and everything about her.
3. Scrape Windshields in the Dead of Winter: Beneath chivalry lies the intent that you want to take care of us, and women like that. Women event the most independent ones of us want to be picked up for a date, have her door opened, her jacket hung for her, and to be walked to her steps without the expectation of coming in. Most of us have a hard time receiving regardless of our sex, and women have battled fiercely for equality on our planet. So sometimes we may insist on going Dutch and maintaining our independence, but at the end of the day chivalry is nice and so are acts of service. To the guy who use to scrape my windshields and start my car so it would be warm by the time I left, thank you!
4. Reach For Your Girl Before the Cell Phone in the Morning: We live such disconnected lives now a days. Prioritizing a snuggle, followed by some morning smooches gets a guy far in this girl’s book. Emails, Facebook, Instagram, voicemails and texts will still be on your phones fifteen minutes from the moment you wake up. Stop, cherish the moment that you have, how you start your day and who with, sets the tone for the rest of your day.
5. Show Up On Time: Guys, when you shows up on time it communicates that you value us, and your word. So whether it’s a fancy night out, pizza and netflix on the couch or the start to a perfect getaway…show up on time, show us where your priorities are.
6. Don’t Squirm When They Hear the Word “Period”: Lady time is part of life, gentlemen. A real man isn’t put off by talks of cramps, cravings or the occasional roller coaster of emotions that happen during shark week. Real men can buy tampons. Real men, know when to bring chocolates 😉
7. Have an Open Mind: Real men aren’t racist, sexist or homophobic. They don’t feel superior because of their gender, skin color or sexual preference. Real men don’t sit at the bar and discuss shop culture that “isn’t for their wives,” real men care less what color skin you have, or what country your genetics came from. They don’t believe they are stronger, more intelligent or superior because they are born with a penis.
8. Show Up: Nothing is sexier than accountability. Real men are accountable for their own well-being and ours. They know the importance of showing up for the good times, and standing by our sides during the not so great things. Real men always will have our backs.
9. Listen: I once had a boyfriend who—bought me the biggest heart-shaped balloon with hot pink fur around it and had sparklers and a red velvet cake for my birthday. Prior to that I had mentioned how balloons and sparklers always made me happy and giddy, how my fav color is hot pink and red velvet cake was the bomb. Listening goes far in this girls book.
10. Drink Wine: Real men can drink wine, wear pink and watch chick flicks free of shame. They know their testosterone isn’t threatened by their taste buds. They don’t feel the need to drive big trucks, bench press small countries or drink whisky to validate their sexuality. They are comfortable with their masculinity and don’t need to prove anything. They just do as they please.
6-Tips On How To Steal His Heart!
At a recent gathering of girlfriends a discussion came up about how to really “get the man” and how to really “keep the man”. After a couple hours of chatting, there was one main theme…Men all respond to being appreciated. Can you believe it…women around the world have been trying to dress sexy, cook the perfect meal, say the perfect thing, and try to logically convince a man to like them. The one puzzle piece that was missing was “emotion”.
If you ever want a man to have deep intense feelings for you, then you need to become emotionally in-tune with him. You have to connect with the emotional part of his mind rather than the logical part. A big thank you to LSI for this great list of just what to say to steal his heart and blow his mind!
1. “I’m proud of you.”
Whether he is an amazing dad, works hard at his job, or he’s just an all around amazing guy, tell him how proud he makes you. Men don’t always get the credit they deserve. Did he get that promotion at work that he’s been working towards all year, or does he take care of his elderly parents without fail every day? Tell him how awesome he is; make this weekend all about him and show him what a great job he is doing with a night out or a surprise favorite meal and dessert!
When you show him how proud of him you really are, it not only makes him feel supported, desirable, and secure, it also makes him feel that you “get” him. This is paramount in creating a connection between the two of you as every man deeply craves to feel understood.
2. “I want you now!”
This single sexy phrase makes him drop everything (pants included) and start drooling over you.
Whispering almost any naughty line to a guy is the sexual equivalent of 3-D glasses – it heightens the entire experience for him. But after talking to a bunch of men recently, I learned there are four specific words every man longs to hear the most. The phrase that unleashes his lust? “I want you now.” Why do these words yield so much seductive power? Relationship expert Felicity Keith explains it in her article,“4 Reasons Why Naughty Talk Drives Men Crazy With Desire”
Men love suggestive comments; just like a woman feels more confident when her man tells her she’s beautiful, men feel more confident when their mate finds them sexy and strong. Notice your man’s muscles and flirt with him. Tell him he’s handsome. Let him know that he’s sexy. Your being suggestive makes him feel like he’s doing a good job being your man.
Try the “Secret Fantasy Phrase” to become the object of his deepest fantasies and watch how thinking about you turns him on in ways which can’t be described by words or the “Razzle Dazzle Phrase” to make every nerve in his body stir and tingle with attraction.
3. “I love you.”
Sometimes when we’re so comfortable in our relationships we don’t say “I love you”, as much as we should. These three words have so much meaning behind them, but we tend to just go about our day without saying them. So the next time you’re at work thinking of your guy, just send him a little text to show him how much you love him.
4. “You make me SO happy.”
We generally accept that men like to be successful in business. They also like to succeed with the ladies, so be smart and let your man succeed with you. Men are more driven to please women than most women realize.It was to win back Helen of Troy that King Menalaus sent the entire Greek army after her, which started the Trojan War, and eventually brought down an empire.
Letting your man know he is succeeding with you won’t spoil him or motivate him less; it will motivate him more. It feels good to feel like a winner. Let your man win with you and watch him start looking for ways to please you over and over again.
5. “You look great.”
Men have insecurities, just like women. And whether he shows it or not, sometimes he’s wondering if his shirt looks better tucked in or out, or if his belly is sticking out a little too far over his belt. This is an especially good compliment if he’s been going to the gym—why do you think he’s doing all that working out?
A simple phrase like “I love your [insert body part]” will do the trick! Sometimes it helps to get specific. “I love your you-know-what” (or whatever word you can say without laughing or blushing too much.) will drive him wild. Men are sensitive about their manly bits and they want to know that you’re attracted to what they have.
6. “I love how strong you are.”
Since you’re already telling him how much you love how he looks, go a little further and say how strong he is as well. All guys, built or not, like to hear that they’re strong and can do something special for their partner.
Even more importantly, show him how mentally strong you think he is. Men are no different than us, they like to feel wanted, needed, and that you can lean on them for emotional support, too.
So, now you see just how important words are in intensifying feelings of attraction and desire in your partner? Saying the right words can literally make a man’s eyes intensify with desire and make his body buzz. Your test, take these emotional phrases and use them daily for one week…You just might be surprised at the rekindle or new flame that will come of it! xo Jennifer
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